How to Host a Stress Free Thanksgiving


If you are anything like me then you love the Holiday season and you love to host, but sometimes you can find yourself in over your head and the joy of the holidays seems to be swept away with a to do list a mile long.

Several years ago my husband and I started hosting Thanksgiving at our home, this year will mark the 5th year in a row that we have opened our doors to family and friends to gather round our table and break bread (or turkey) and give thanks together. We have come to love the tradition of hosting this holiday at our home and over the years we have found a few ways to help alleviate some of the stress and make it a more enjoyable event for all.

Here are some of those ways:

  • Delegate dishes to all that plan to join you, not only does this help in the financial department, it helps take some of the stress off of your shoulders, I have also found that my guests love to contribute their favorite dish or dessert! It’s a win win! We supply the main dish, the TURKEY and a few sides and drinks and our guests bring the rest!
  • Save the new recipes for another time and stick to the tried and true! No one likes the added stress of trying out a new and unfamiliar recipe in the kitchen when guests are on their way, stick to recipes you know well and love to make.
  • Set your table and rearrange furniture the day or evening before Thanksgiving, you do not need the added stress of rearranging the house in order to accommodate everyone as they arrive, have a space ready for them well in advance.
  • Get the family to pitch in and handle chores around the house, clean the bathroom mirror, vacuum the living room and all that other fun stuff! Have this all done in the days leading up to the big event.
  • Will there be little ones at your gathering? Have something fun for them to do, dollar and craft stores have lots of fun little turkey crafts or coloring pages and games to help keep little hands occupied as guests are arriving and even after the meal.
  • Prepare any foods that you can the night before, I usually make any dessert I plan on serving and my cranberry sauce the day prior to Thanksgiving, they are done and in the fridge and out of my way as I prepare my turkey and other sides on Thanksgiving day.
  • Be a team player, especially with your spouse! It can be stressful to pull off a big event in your home, and we often can take that stress out on those we love the most, decide to be a team before the big day, check in and see how you can help each other out, communicate well as you open up your home, believe me, it will make all the difference in the world to set the tone for your gathering!
  • In the end, remember that this is real life, real life is messy and not always perfect so give yourself grace! Have fun, let your hair down and truly marvel in all of your blessings this day, your friends and family will appreciate all of your hard work and more than anything your presence with them, so go on and have some fun!

I hope you find some helpful tips above, do you have a favorite Thanksgiving tradition? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!


Husbands! Romance Your Wives This Valentines Day :)



Gentlemen! It’s that time of year again, where red roses and heart shaped chocolate boxes are lining the store shelves, when romance is in the air and YOU, yes you are carrying the pressure of what to do for your wife this year that is better than last year and better than what your buddy is doing for his wife! So what is the big deal about Valentines day anyway? Well, I will let you in on a little secret, we women like to be romanced! We like to be noticed, we like to be thought of, we like to feel pursued! And you as our husbands  take the position of honor when it comes to fulfilling this mission! I thought I would put together some thoughts to help you get into your wife’s head a little bit better this Valentines day and  give you some tools to really wow her! Are you ready? Good, lets dig in 🙂


Say it!

How beautiful you are, my darling!
    Oh, how beautiful!
    Your eyes are doves.

Take it from King Solomon in Song of Solomon, he knew how to be generous with his words in complementing his bride! Now you may not want to use some of the same imagery as he did, such as comparing certain parts of her body to small woodland animals, however… He was a wise man indeed when it came to lavishing  his wife with complements, he USED DETAIL! Don’t miss this one guys,  detail is VERY important to your wife. What about her is beautiful, be specific and creative with your compliments, you wont be sorry!



Do it big! 



Okay, maybe not that big, but don’t skimp! Does she mean the world to you? Then show her 🙂 plan in advance some ways to let her know you were intentional about romancing her. This means, have a plan (now would be a good time) and execute it well. Don’t stop at flowers and a card (though those are a great place to start!) make the goal be for your wife to wonder how she got so lucky to have a husband who put so much thought into loving her well!


Study Her!


No matter how many years you have been married, there is always more you can learn about your wife. What is her favorite color? What is her favorite flower? You should know this guys! And if you don’t, now is a good time to find out. How does she like to be pursued? When does she feel loved? How does she like to be touched? She will give you clues, such as pulling away=no like or leaning in close= like. One of the most loving things you can do for your wife when it comes to romancing her is to never stop honing your own skills, don’t let things get boring, but instead be intentional about finding new ways to let her know she is still the one for you!


Make Her Your One and Only!



Do NOT compare your wife to ANY other woman! She is your wife, her beauty is your standard of beauty. Let her know that no one else will ever do and no one else could ever come close, and don’t just say this, believe it! Live as a man with integrity, a man that is faithful and a man that willingly forsakes all others for the good of his marriage. Your wife will be able to come into her own beauty when she does not fear that she cannot ever measure up to the worlds standard of beauty. Love her earnestly and valiantly and this will romance her soul!


Be a Giver!



This Valentines day, give give give, without worrying about what you will get! Take the time, put in the effort, and take it slow. Gifts are wonderful, but not all gifts have to come from a store. Write her a note, or several love notes for her to find through out the day, buy her or pick her fresh flowers and put them all around the house, write her a poem, sing her a song, just make sure your attitude is to give her your love, she will feel this and that is what she is really hoping for!


One last thought, do these things all year long and not just on Valentines day! Your wife and your marriage are an amazing gift and just like any investment you will always get out of it what you put into it! Enjoy romancing your wife this valentines day, and be sure to have her check back here tomorrow to find out about 21 ways to romance you!