Gentlemen! It’s that time of year again, where red roses and heart shaped chocolate boxes are lining the store shelves, when romance is in the air and YOU, yes you are carrying the pressure of what to do for your wife this year that is better than last year and better than what your buddy is doing for his wife! So what is the big deal about Valentines day anyway? Well, I will let you in on a little secret, we women like to be romanced! We like to be noticed, we like to be thought of, we like to feel pursued! And you as our husbands take the position of honor when it comes to fulfilling this mission! I thought I would put together some thoughts to help you get into your wife’s head a little bit better this Valentines day and give you some tools to really wow her! Are you ready? Good, lets dig in 🙂
How beautiful you are, my darling!
Oh, how beautiful!
Your eyes are doves.
Take it from King Solomon in Song of Solomon, he knew how to be generous with his words in complementing his bride! Now you may not want to use some of the same imagery as he did, such as comparing certain parts of her body to small woodland animals, however… He was a wise man indeed when it came to lavishing his wife with complements, he USED DETAIL! Don’t miss this one guys, detail is VERY important to your wife. What about her is beautiful, be specific and creative with your compliments, you wont be sorry!
Do it big!
Okay, maybe not that big, but don’t skimp! Does she mean the world to you? Then show her 🙂 plan in advance some ways to let her know you were intentional about romancing her. This means, have a plan (now would be a good time) and execute it well. Don’t stop at flowers and a card (though those are a great place to start!) make the goal be for your wife to wonder how she got so lucky to have a husband who put so much thought into loving her well!
No matter how many years you have been married, there is always more you can learn about your wife. What is her favorite color? What is her favorite flower? You should know this guys! And if you don’t, now is a good time to find out. How does she like to be pursued? When does she feel loved? How does she like to be touched? She will give you clues, such as pulling away=no like or leaning in close= like. One of the most loving things you can do for your wife when it comes to romancing her is to never stop honing your own skills, don’t let things get boring, but instead be intentional about finding new ways to let her know she is still the one for you!
Make Her Your One and Only!
Do NOT compare your wife to ANY other woman! She is your wife, her beauty is your standard of beauty. Let her know that no one else will ever do and no one else could ever come close, and don’t just say this, believe it! Live as a man with integrity, a man that is faithful and a man that willingly forsakes all others for the good of his marriage. Your wife will be able to come into her own beauty when she does not fear that she cannot ever measure up to the worlds standard of beauty. Love her earnestly and valiantly and this will romance her soul!
Be a Giver!
This Valentines day, give give give, without worrying about what you will get! Take the time, put in the effort, and take it slow. Gifts are wonderful, but not all gifts have to come from a store. Write her a note, or several love notes for her to find through out the day, buy her or pick her fresh flowers and put them all around the house, write her a poem, sing her a song, just make sure your attitude is to give her your love, she will feel this and that is what she is really hoping for!
One last thought, do these things all year long and not just on Valentines day! Your wife and your marriage are an amazing gift and just like any investment you will always get out of it what you put into it! Enjoy romancing your wife this valentines day, and be sure to have her check back here tomorrow to find out about 21 ways to romance you!